3 Reasons why God ended your Relationship
One thing that I have in common with a lot of women is that I’ve been terribly heartbroken in the past.
To this day I remember how I felt during my last breakup. I asked God to restore the
lust my bad ‘love’ my boyfriend and I had for each other and prayed everything would get back to normal.
One week, two weeks, even three weeks later but the Ex hasn’t been touched by the Holy Spirit yet. Hmm, that’s odd.
I wondered what happened and felt like God had withdrawn his blessing from my relationship. So I got annoyed and accused God of misleading me.
‘But I thought he is “The One” and we are meant to be?’, ‘You said “whoever finds a wife, finds a good thing” and he found me on Instagram!’ (let’s be honest, that’s a good point).
But no matter the fussing and fighting, the verdict was out. He’s not ‘The One’ God has for you!
Now what? Even though a ‘no’ is not always what you want to hear, God will say it at times. And I believe that there’s no need to be discouraged. Because a godly “No” can be very powerful and helpful to your growth.
Remember that every time God says “No” he has a good reason why and you just need to trust Him. That’s why today I’m sharing with you 3 reasons why God ended your relationship.
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The below Bible Verses have been quoted from the Life Application Study Bible (NIV).
1. It was only infatuation
Do you know the difference between infatuation and Love? If not, then that might be one of the reasons why God ended your relationship.
When I think back to my past relationships, I would describe them as emotional, intense and draining.
Am I mostly using negative descriptions to make a point? Maybe. But once you read the definitions of infatuation and love you will get the idea.
According to the Oxford Dictionary, infatuation is: ‘an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.’
According to the Bible, love is:
‘patient, kind. It does not envy, it does not boast and it is not proud. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres and it never fails.’ (Excerpt of 1 Corinthians 13)
To break it down a little further, when we are infatuated with someone we feel like we are on an emotional high. We are blinded by our own desire for affection and their perfect appearance (so we think).
Only problem, neither the feelings nor our current state of being are sustainable and doomed to die down.
In contrast, when we are in love we agree to a long-lasting commitment to care for our partner. We are well aware of the other person’s flaws and don’t lean on them to make us happy.
Moreover, our love for them remains strong, even when the passion and emotions of the beginning are gone.
2. The relationship became an idol
The second reason of the 3 reasons why God ended your relationship is closely linked to the first one, yet worth pointing out again.
Idolatry is a sin we are repeatedly warned about in the Bible. An idol can be anything you desire more than God.
It could be a physical object like money. It could be a status symbol like success or beauty. Or it could be the approval of people. For women, it is oftentimes the desire to be married.
The idols speak deceitfully, diviners see visions that lie; they tell dreams that are false, they give comfort in vain. Therefore the people wander like sheep oppressed for lack of a shepherd. – Zechariah 10:2
If your past relationship was the highest priority in your life and dictated almost every aspect of it, including your time, your focus, your finances and your walk with God then it was an idol.
Mind you I’m not talking about the actual person (which is possible too), more so I am referring to the relationship itself or let’s say the relationship ‘status’.
As someone who has a track record in getting into the wrong relationships (before I was serious about my walk with God), I can now honestly say that a lot of times I was in it for the wrong reasons.
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My main driver for pursuing a relationship was oftentimes society’s pressure to be booed up. Making it work no matter what, became my focus and led me to compromise or even forget about my values and self-love.
I repeatedly caught myself dropping my godly standards to accommodate his nonsense behavior. I wanted to remain in a relationship so that I could showcase it to my Facebook Friends and continue using hashtags like #hisandhers #bae #lovemesomehim etc.
Stupid I know, but Instagram was life at one point. So how can you avoid making an idol out of a relationship and withstand its influence?
By questioning your heart’s desire and getting to the root of it! Ask yourself why a relationship is so important to you and then give it to God.
Once you understand the joy that lies in living for God and directing all your worship towards him you begin to love him so much that you refuse to pursue anything else but him.
3. You don’t know true Love
If you have been following me for a while, then you know I love sharing Inspirational Quotes. One day I came across this one and it made me think:
Most of us spend our lives trying to find love, trying to live in love but dying without ever truly discovering love.
This quote is taken from a chapter in Leo Buscaglia’s book Love: What Life Is All About. It describes a very basic human desire to love and be loved.
A quest every human being has been on at some point in his life. Even little babies long for proximity and emotional reassurance from their mother or father, which is provided through love.
At first, I connected with this quote because I felt like it was the story of my life. I thought back to the many times I desperately tried to make a relationship work and failed. I thought I just needed more patience while waiting on God.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this quote wasn’t talking about LOVE but it was talking about love.
The small, limited and worldly meaning of Love used to describe a relationship between a man and a woman. However, real LOVE is so much more than what we see in Disney movies and transcends the human definition.
He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. – 1 John 4:8
As a believer, we have the honor to know and be in a relationship with the author, creator, and embodiment of love.
What God has done for us and how much he values each of our lives, is an act of unconditional love. That’s why when we give our lives to Christ we are blessed to truly discover love.
A new relationship will only work if you discover God’s true love for you and love yourself as well as your partners the way God wants all his children to be loved.
Maybe these three reasons played a vital role in your past relationships (I know they did in mine) and are the reason why God said no.
Luckily you and I are still young enough to learn from the past and use God’s wisdom to guide us to a yes.
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