Does God bring couples back together?

The most painful part about a breakup is oftentimes the uncertainty. Especially, if you didn’t want the relationship to end. Deep down you are hoping that the relationship can be salvaged and the love re-instated. 

So, in your desperation, you start to look for signs, advice, and hints to the most important question: “Will God reunite me with my ex?”. 

That was also one of the many questions I asked myself after a painful breakup.

Even though it had already been more than a year since our amicable breakup, I was still wondering whether we had a chance of rekindling our love. 

After all, we did not break up because we hated each other or someone cheated, but simply because he had moved to New York City for work, while I remained in Atlanta.

So, nothing bad. Nothing that we couldn’t fix.

Well, besides the fact that by now I was a digital nomad in Medellin, Colombia with no foreseeable return to the United States of America anytime soon.

But still. We had a very strong soul tie which made it seem like we were never truly apart.

But back to the reason why I’m writing this post.

does god bring couples back together

Does God bring couples back together?

If you are asking yourself “Does God bring couples back together?” Then I can confidently say “yes…if the relationship is according to His purpose for your life“.

And I know that this answer is not very comforting, because you don’t have a guarantee that your ex is part of God’s plan for you.

None of us knows what is.

And if you have been broken up for a while, you might wonder whether an on-again-off-again relationship can work.

To give you a tiny bit of comfort during this time, I decided to share the signs that God will restore your dating relationship.

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Why does God put someone into your life?

It’s important to remember that just like God brought you and your (ex-)boyfriend together the first time around, he can also bring the two of you together again if that is in his will.

In a blog post, I wrote a couple of years ago, titled: “Why God will sometimes end a relationship” I explain in detail why a breakup isn’t always a bad thing.

When we idolize the relationship, are not ready for the relationship, or the relationship was solely built on infatuation, we have to trust that God broke it up for a good reason.

And I know it is not easy to accept that, because we want what we want. However, as Christian, we have to make sure that our desire for God is bigger than the desires of our flesh.

Truth is, I have seen God restoring dating relationships over and over again. Once both people were mature enough and ready to step into his purpose for their lives, they would find their way back to each other.

No matter the time that has passed.

I, myself have experienced that. My boyfriend and I broke up two years ago and found our way back to each other recently. Even though I had appreciated a faster reconciliation God brought us back together in his timing.

So, we have to understand that nothing God does happens because WE want it. It happens because God has a plan that is unfolding with us in it.

And sometimes that plan involves a second chance with your ex-boyfriend. 

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When can God bring someone back into your life?

1. When you are ready for each other / a relationship

As I mentioned above, some relationships end because you simply got together prematurely.

Maybe the relationship was built on lust, or both of you were not yet willing to commit. Whatever it was, for some reason you were not ready to serve each other as partners and broke up.

However, once both of you have done the inner work and are ready to commit to a relationship, God may bring your ex back into your life. Because the truth is, there is a difference between wanting a relationship and being truly ready for a relationship.

As a single woman, you want to ensure that your heart, body, and mind are ready to receive the man God has for you at any time, otherwise you risk losing him the moment he appears.

A good way to do that is by seeking guidance. You can do that through reading, talking to wise council, or getting coaching. There are many steps you can take now that will help you get ready.

2. When you become the best partner possible

Another common reason why relationships end is that we are too self-centered, immature, or disrespectful.

Let’s be real, not everyone knows how to be a good girlfriend or boyfriend. As a matter of fact, most people don’t even know how to be a good friend in general.

You may have had selfish tendencies, been argumentative, or even lacked self-esteem in the past.

All these things can seriously harm and sabotage a relationship.

However, if you have done some work on yourself and grown as a person things can change. Your ex-boyfriend is just as much a child of God as you are. Therefore, God will only want you to get back together with your ex, once you are His best as well.

It is crucial that you use your season of separation to identify the reasons why you broke up and then do the work it takes to become a better partner.

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3. When the relationship is no longer an idol

For a lot of single women, being in a relationship or getting married is very important. So much so that it can easily become an idol and we accept anything or anyone in order to get the title.

Before God can bring you two back together, you will need to completely surrender your relationship and your ex-boyfriend to him.

If you still experience emotional breakdowns and depression because of the breakup, then it’s an indication that you are still too invested.

The goal is to feel and complete even now without him. That way, whether he comes back or not, you know you will be fine.

Because only if your desire for God is stronger than your desire to be with him you will have a God-honoring relationship.

God broke us up and brought us back together

Now that I mentioned the basic reasons why God brings couples back together, I figured it is important to share my personal experience.

As I mention in many other blog posts, I believe that God will sometimes end a relationship. And when he does it is for a “good” reason. In our case, it was because we simply were not ready.

But, I, specifically had a to work on my mindset. Long after we were broken up I was still struggling with a very strong and unhealthy soul tie.

hI couldn’t stop thinking of him, frequently dreamt of him and often felt hopeful without him. The memories of our relationship would trigger emotional and physical pain, to tje point that I lost 15 pounds.

That lasted for more than 1 year, until I decided it was time to let go of my ex completely and move on.

It wasn’t until I had finally broken my unhealthy soul tie to Demi that God brought us back together. I was no longer idolizing the relationship or Demi.

I finally felt happy again and even had faith that God would bring new love into my life. Which he did. New love, form a familiar person.

And that’s what I believe truly played into God bringing us back together.

That’s why I created the FREE Untangling Soul Ties Worksheet. A simple one-pager that will help you identify and untangle any unhealthy soul tie that is keeping you in bondage.

You can download the worksheet FOR FREE here.

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15 Comments on Does God bring couples back together?

  1. We have a close relationship for more than a year, we have long distance relationship and share everything together, especially we put God first and always pray to know God’s will for us. We match everything, but I get more and more anxious because he has no certainty about coming to me, it stresses me a lot, he gets tired and stops contacting. He said he will find me in the next 5 months, and if I don’t see his texting, we’re done. I still prayed for God’s forgiveness, healing and love on both of us, I kept quiet to let God work, but in my heart there was a huge void, I didn’t know he had feelings like me. I miss him so much, just looking forward to seeing him.

  2. For me I’m still struggling because my house was currently going through renovations so my family and I lived in a hotel for over a month until it was completed. This was a time I felt alone and my friends were all in full on serious relationships. As I was keeping myself busy as best as I possibly can. I was letting go of a previous soul tie so I prayed about it and let God know to remove this past person. I then started to pray about the man who I wanted. When I did that a week later I found my most recent ex. We were great to the point I saw myself being with him forever. I saw marriage and I saw children with this man. Our issues were he lived 1.5 hrs away, he worked a busy schedule and sometimes communication wasn’t there but we did make it work. One of the biggest issues was when I went to the hospital to get the women’s exam I found that I had a treatable STI. He didn’t speak to me for a week but we were able to overcome this issue and our relationship was better than ever. Him staying made me believe that he truly loves me. Another issue we had was that he kept commenting on others girls social media and this happened more than once. So 4 days ago he decided to end things because he didn’t know what he wanted. I was absolutely devastated and confused because I didn’t think this was going to happen. I started to react and message him long text messages for 2 days straight after our break up pleading to work it out. He said that he need a break, time and space. So finally I decided to stop reaching out to him but it feels like this wasn’t supposed to happen. I obsess over this because we were okay and he was happy. So I’ve been trying to set goals to myself to overcome this but I’m terrified of letting him go or moving on because I really expressed to him how I felt. God put us into a relationship and he took him away.

  3. Me and my ex have been knowing eachother since we were 7 years old and practically grew up together in church and we were high school sweethearts.. over the years we dated for 3 years and our relationship was off and on. Last year I broke it off and tried to move on but I couldn’t, we still did couple things but didn’t have the title of a couple. It’s been a year now being friends while doing couple things with him then he decided to move on with another girl who isn’t equally yoked with him and it confuses me and it hurt me and now I’m here waiting for him and trusting God and the process hoping God will bring him back and we will have a beautiful relationship again. Please give me advice on what I should do.. I’m just waiting for him and still living my life and seeking God but I need advice.

  4. You have to let go and move forward. If it’s meant to be, you don’t need to wait or do or worry.

  5. Me and this guy who deeply love and appreciate each other. We are both spiritual but only started to pray to God recently as we have been forced apart. Due to circumstances beyond our control as I don’t have much independence. To get out of the house to see him and can’t expect him to do everything.

    Everyone gives me a hard time but things had gone so well. We both believe we are meant to spend the rest of our lives together happily in love.

    The main problem I have is that my family want me to do housework all the time. Not leaving much time for me to do things and do help. It’s like I have to put my life, dreams and goals on hold for housework. Do my best to build myself up as know I’m worthy of a life.

    I pray to God all of the time and he shows me signs this man is the one. My destiny and future.

    What I’m asking for is guidance on what else can I do. As don’t want to offload my problems off to this guy as want us to have happy memories together. Some of my dreams are out of my control to come true and want to break this cycle of constantly doing housework.

    If you don’t understand then please ask and I will explain.

    Thank you.

  6. So my issue in my relationship was idolizing my bf. He said he lost feelings and recently just said that gods answer if i’m the one for him was a no. Would God still be able to bring us back together in the future? What if he nmisunderstood Gods no?

  7. Thank you for this. This made me cry tears of relief. I feel that I’m ready to move on, have faith and trust God now.

  8. i love this so much ! totally spoke to me (: I am going through the same exact thing that you went through. My bf and i broke up 3 years ago, we went through ups and downs and eventually we just stopped talking after a frustrated misunderstanding. At that point i really thought and felt that it was the end for us because we just can’t seem to communicate well and there was frustration within. Then the unimaginable thing happened, one day when i asked the Lord for clarity and direction because i was just so so troubled in my spirit and i received an unexpected vivid dream that revealed to me what the future will look like. When i woke up, i was just so shocked and baffled that i really do not know how to react to this revelation that i believe was from the Lord. I kept that in my heart and carried on my personal journey with the Lord, growing and seeking Him more. Just like that, 10 months passed. This was when the Lord caused a timely encounter that i knew it was Him only.

    I bumped into my former bf in a bus after the original bus that i had intended to take left earlier then expected. I was utterly speechless and in my heart i knew that i had to come up to him and strike a conversation. From there onwards, we had time to catch up on the things that have happened within these months and i am so grateful that the Lord had done so much work in us individually while we were separated. Now we are taking baby steps to build a fresh new friendship with the Lord at the centre 🙂 God is so good !

  9. I want an advise, my situation is so different. We are inlove but he is still married. He and his wife always fight and I believe his wife is the one dominant in relationships coz he does not have a job, and she earns more than him

    Our relationship lasted almost a year and now still in contact with me but wants us to wait on the Lord if we are meant to be, he said we will. I am so hurt still, coz we already planned he will come to me but never happened.
    We missed God in our relationship, that’s our fault. And we hurt his wife, as I said we are still in contact but wants us to focus on God.. Do u think, there is still a chance for us if God wills?

  10. I am dead inside. I’m struggling with bipolar AND bpd, which is completely debilitating to say the least… I’ve said some awful things in anger to my partner… who also struggles with bipolar but he’s gotten treatment for it and is able to manage it. I’m just starting treatment. Meds, still looking for a therapist, and trying to walk with Jesus. I even struggle with my walk cause with bpd we struggle with identity, and can you imagine not knowing you are in Christ?!? Constant battle not only cause I’m a sinner, but I’m also mentally “sick”:( I can’t take it anymore. My partner and I had to stop communicating. He needs space, and I need growth in Jesus. He’s also working on his walk. I feel like I brought him down and even made him sick again. My life is torn, and to be honest, always has been. I’m also trying to stay sober from weed, I’ve relapsed few times but I’m back on it again. I truly hope we can reconcile. I know he loves me, and I do love him and want to love him like The Lord wants me to. I feel worthless, alone, and like a piece of shit. I’ve said HORRIBLE things during my anger. Then I end up crying and crying and crying. PLS pray for me, for us, and for him. I want Gods will for us, and in my heart I of course want my partner back…. But I know we started things off in sin… and God doesn’t want that. He wants us pure and holy. Pls just pray guys:( and pls pray I find a Godly sister in Christ who can mentor me. I need it so bad!!!!

  11. I met my ex 11 months we were really in love I would always get upset over little things but he’d always try and fix it we spent so much time together did so much he had given me a promise ring and his chain he used to never ever give up on me until January he was talking to other girls and he ended up being interested in one so he ended things with me out of nowhere I begged him for weeks and he rejected me he got frustrated and ended up blocking me he just wanted to move on with her I wanted to die so bad I prayed and prayed for him to come back but he didn’t I found ways to reach out to him and he kept blocking me to the point he told me “I’m talking to someone else she’s amazing and I think she can make me happy” I don’t have friends and he was the closest to me I feel jealousy nauseous Im so sick knowing he’s with someone else knowing he’s not mine anymore knowing he doesn’t care for us anymore I’m alone now without his love this happened very recent I’m still feeling this way but I felt like he was my soulmate I felt he was the one I gave this guy my very all but he changed I want him to come back I want God to reunite us but he has a new girl in his life who he seems to like a lot but I’m still very in love with him and I wanna believe someday God will bring us back together but if he dates her then what if he forgets me what if he never unblocks me what if he thinks I’m crazy for begging him after he said no I’m seeking for help and I pray to God for help but I can’t seem to get out of it I stopped going to public school because I couldn’t take the fact that he is talking to someone else but I’m still in love and want to be with him if it’s God’s plan I know he’ll reunite us but I wonder if I messed up by begging if he’ll ever want to come back if this girl is better for him I wonder if it’s even possible for God to reunite us after the horrible breakup we had after he’s already moved on I wonder if it’s possible to ever be with my first love again my heart aches really bad I feel like I won’t make it out I barley eat I’m trying to move on but I’m struggling our love was real but sadly it got to this I feel it in my heart that me and him are meant to be but I wonder if it’s possible for us to ever get in touch again after losing contact if he’ll ever even consider coming back if he’ll think nothing of me and forget me forever I’m afraid to never see my first love again the guy I feel in love with who still has my full heart I need God’s help it hurts to know that in this moment is over and another girl has him he didn’t hear me out and he pushed me away when I tried convincing him to stay will he ever feel love for me again he used to be so different now it’s like I don’t even know him how could he hurt me this way we had plans for our future we were gonna move in together but now he wants to with someone else I’m torn and heart broken I wanna heal but at the same time I also want him back I’m willing to take him back but is he ever gonna be willing to come back idk how much God is gonna do for us idk if he’ll let my ex stay with this new girl or if he’ll give me and my ex have a second chance I’m begging God for a second chance I wanna have my future with him but the truth is I don’t see it happening I hope that it’s God’s will to reunite me and him even if he ends up being with someone else I feel it in my that I love this guy with everything I got and the love we gave each other wasn’t fake we were closer than anything we were inseparable till now

  12. Hi, I just broke up with my boyfriend two days ago because we aren’t equally yoked although he is very open to seeking God with me, he is just doubtful. He isn’t sure if God is there. We’ve been together for 3 years and it was great, he’s just about everything I seek in a husband. He wants to marry me too. The other problem was I was idolizing the relationship and was hoping very hard for him to turn to God. I understand it’s God’s timing. My boyfriend encourages me to seek God in this even though we’re both hurting and missing each other terribly. It’s hitting me harder because I was idolizing the relationship. We are friends right now but we want so badly to be in a relationship. Because he genuinely wants to seek God I think I could’ve stayed I just think I’m the only problem because I’m idolizing and God is jealous. I’m planning to take a relationship fast and repent for idolatry but it’s just hard to cope with emotions especially because I can’t focus on university and I really need to right now.
    I want confirmation if I should wait for him and I’ve prayed about it. But really I think I’m the only one stopping progress. I wanted an opinion because all our friends and family was rooting for us to seek God and be together and they’re kind of heartbroken to.

  13. Thank you fot this. I really needed. I broke up with my boyfriends 2 months ago. It’s been painful. I think we aren’t mature to be in a relationship and we’ve been hurting each other. Now, I’m trusting in the work of God in both of us, even if we won’t back together. And if we get back together, I will know that we weren’t prepare before, that it wasnt the timing.

  14. One day one girl followed on Instagram then became friend she was more younger than me . But we matched perfectly then we started to love each other we prayed together but we have one problem I live in australia , she lives in France . So it was long distance relationship after 1 year She started to lose interest on me then small fights by phone then she said she wants break up then I couldn’t bear it . But she left me… I still love her so much… and we wanted to get married even but now I’m alone and one day I decided to go France to see her in real life and I went it was miracle when I found her in the bus… I believe God one day reunite us again ..ins

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