When to let a relationship go
How do you know when God tells you to let go of someone?
Have you ever been in a situation and had that tugging feeling that God is telling you to end a relationship? But your emotions for him are running so high that you can’t make a decision?
Well, I have. And it’s not fun.
Because, when God wants you to break up with someone it is always for a good reason. And the longer you wait, the more painful it gets.
It’s like the famous Oprah quote:
“Life always whispers to you first, but if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you’ll get a scream.”
Oh how wise she is.
But it’s so true. There are always clear signs god is saying no sprinkled all through a relationship if it is not ordained by him and it’s up to you to recognize them.
Here are 3 signs that will help you know when to let a relationship go.
4 signs God is telling you to end a relationship
1. You have a feeling
When God tells you to let go of someone, he will show you very subtle signs in the beginning. Oftentimes through something as simple as your gut feeling and intuition.
And to some people that might sound very vague, but it really is not. When you accept Christ as Savior, the Holy Spirit comes to live in your heart and guides you through life. Therefore, the more connected you are to Him, the easier it will be to know if God put someone in your life.
So, if you have a feeling that something is off with your boyfriend and are not having peace about a relationship, then trust that feeling.
And I know a lot of times you don’t want to accept it, because you are afraid of letting go of someone you love. But take heart. When you surrender a relationship to God you set yourself up to receive His best for you.
2. He disregards your boundaries
Boundaries are very important because they protect your well-being and serve as a measuring tool for respect.
If every time the two of you are together, your boyfriend crosses your boundaries and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone.
A relationship in which you repeatedly feel uncomfortable, bad about yourself, or can’t be authentic is not the relationship you want to be in.
Therefore, if you do not feel like yourself and keep doing things to please your man rather than honoring God and valuing yourself, then it is time to break up.
3. You don’t enjoy your time together
I’m a firm believer that a relationship should be fun! And if you are not having fun, then I would argue that you are unequally yoked.
Yes, ladies you can be unequally yoked, even if both of you are Christians.
There can be a multitude of reasons why you don’t enjoy hanging out with each other. Maybe because you are not attracted to each other, maybe because you have nothing in common, or maybe because you have different values.
If every time you are together, there is nothing to talk about or you two argue all the time, then trust me this relationship is not for you. So, you have to break things off in order to be with someone that you are compatible with and enjoy having in your life.
4. You constantly feel stressed
Be honest with yourself, are you holding on to a man even though you don’t feel like you can trust him and feel stressed about?
Feeling anxious, distrustful, and overwhelmed are not the emotions that describe love.
It is safe to say that if you are not feeling at peace, loved, and aligned in your relationship, then that is not just a sign but a whole bullet board telling you to end a relationship.
A relationship that is a constant source of stress is not good for you and definitely not what God intended for you.
So, truly ask yourself if you are more in love with the idea of who he could be then who he really is and if that is worth your mental health.
Remember that God is always speaking to you. Sometimes he will speak through very subtle signs such as feelings. And sometimes he will use very obvious signs, such as people or situations.
In order to tell if he is truly guiding you, you have to stay connected to the source and listen to the Holy Spirit.