When to let a relationship go

How do you know when God tells you to let go of someone? 

Have you ever been in a situation and had that tugging feeling that God is telling you to end a relationship? But your emotions for him are running so high that you can’t make a decision?

Well, I have. And it’s not fun. 

Because, when God wants you to break up with someone it is always for a good reason. And the longer you wait, the more painful it gets. 

It’s like the famous Oprah quote

“Life always whispers to you first, but if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you’ll get a scream.”

Oh how wise she is. 

But it’s so true. There are always clear signs god is saying no sprinkled all through a relationship if it is not ordained by him and it’s up to you to recognize them. 

Here are 3 signs that will help you know when to let a relationship go.

When God tells you to let go of someone

4 signs God is telling you to end a relationship

1. You have a feeling

When God tells you to let go of someone, he will show you very subtle signs in the beginning. Oftentimes through something as simple as your gut feeling and intuition.

And to some people that might sound very vague, but it really is not. When you accept Christ as Savior, the Holy Spirit comes to live in your heart and guides you through life. Therefore, the more connected you are to Him, the easier it will be to know if God put someone in your life.

So, if you have a feeling that something is off with your boyfriend and are not having peace about a relationship, then trust that feeling. 

And I know a lot of times you don’t want to accept it, because you are afraid of letting go of someone you love. But take heart. When you surrender a relationship to God you set yourself up to receive His best for you. 

2. He disregards your boundaries 

Boundaries are very important because they protect your well-being and serve as a measuring tool for respect.

If every time the two of you are together, your boyfriend crosses your boundaries and it makes you feel uncomfortable, then that is how you know when God is telling you to let go of someone. 

A relationship in which you repeatedly feel uncomfortable, bad about yourself, or can’t be authentic is not the relationship you want to be in. 

Therefore, if you do not feel like yourself and keep doing things to please your man rather than honoring God and valuing yourself, then it is time to break up. 

3. You don’t enjoy your time together

I’m a firm believer that a relationship should be fun! And if you are not having fun, then I would argue that you are unequally yoked. 

Yes, ladies you can be unequally yoked, even if both of you are Christians. 

There can be a multitude of reasons why you don’t enjoy hanging out with each other. Maybe because you are not attracted to each other, maybe because you have nothing in common, or maybe because you have different values. 

If every time you are together, there is nothing to talk about or you two argue all the time, then trust me this relationship is not for you. So, you have to break things off in order to be with someone that you are compatible with and enjoy having in your life. 

4. You constantly feel stressed

Be honest with yourself, are you holding on to a man even though you don’t feel like you can trust him and feel stressed about? 

Feeling anxious, distrustful, and overwhelmed are not the emotions that describe love.

It is safe to say that if you are not feeling at peace, loved, and aligned in your relationship, then that is not just a sign but a whole bullet board telling you to end a relationship.

A relationship that is a constant source of stress is not good for you and definitely not what God intended for you.

So, truly ask yourself if you are more in love with the idea of who he could be then who he really is and if that is worth your mental health.  

Remember that God is always speaking to you. Sometimes he will speak through very subtle signs such as feelings. And sometimes he will use very obvious signs, such as people or situations.

In order to tell if he is truly guiding you, you have to stay connected to the source and listen to the Holy Spirit. 

When God tells you to let go of someone.

10 Comments on When God tells you to let go of someone

  1. I am a man of 46 years of age. And I am married. We have three kids with my wife. My wife had told me that. God is sending her back to her ex boy friend we are both Christians. And she prays a lot but we have so many problems in our marriage. Once she told me that its her who made life to be like this because she is in wrong relationship. And is showing her ….her ex boy friend . We have agreed to let her move on and but its not nice at all to me even her she is crying but she loves her ex boy friend . We are still together but it stressful to me. Because they have communication with her ex boy friend but does not want to move in to him and leave . What stresses me more I have to take care of her and look after kids since she does not have strength sometimes. And she does not have feelings for me anymore. What can I do to let her go because when I ask her to go she says that she wants to move to her place first so that can meet her ex boy friend in a rightful manner not to go to his house. What must I do to this situation?? I am so stressed!!!

    • I am sorry you both are Experian such overwhelming heart ache.. I believe you are doing the right thing by giving her the support she needs. However if it was the will of God for her to chase after a boyfriend it would not be this complicated for her.. God honors marriage it is a commitment before the eyes of God he favors marriages even when you married the wrong person… be humble and pray if you love your wife and wants to be with her even though things doesn’t seem good. Put your faith and trust in God and he will move in ways you can only imagine to turn the situation around.. when a man finds a wife he finds favor with God.. prob: 18. Trust God, have faith and know he is working for your highest good.. this too shall pass

    • Have Faith… Let go and Let God be God and he will give us the Strength and Guide us to HIS WILL for our Life!!!

      My husband after 18 years has decided to end our marriage. The only way I’m am surviving is by keeping my eyes on God and allowing the Holy Spirit to supply all my needs!!! I keep thinking of this story in the Bible.

      Do not be afraid.” Peter spoke up and said, “Lord, if it is you, tell me to come out on to the water.” Jesus replied, “Come.” Peter stepped out of the boat and began to walk on the water. As he took a few more steps, he took his eyes off of Christ, noticing the wind and rough waters. He slowly began to sink.


      I hope that helps. I feel your pain and while idk you… I’ll pray for your strength and guidance to Let God be God!!! I’ll keep my personal opinions to myself about what I see from the outside looking in. JUST KNOW… We may not know what the future holds, BUT we KNOW it’s God that holds the future!!! He has plans for us…

      Jeremiah 29:11-14
      For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.”

      The above verse speaks to my soul!!!

  2. My girlfriend and I have decided to take a break in our relationship. Everything in our relationship is perfect except one part and that’s sexual sin.

    We have both tried to set boundaries and both keep crossing the line. We have tried other things to help us but this magnetic force is very strong.

    Our love is very strong for each but we just want to be better Christians and walk with god together.

    Should be break up and throw away this love or ? This is where we don’t know what to do.

    • Why don’t you just get married? My pastor recently started a “insta-wedding” for people in your same situation.

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