How to know if he’s the one God has for you.
Nowadays the twilight zone before a relationship becomes official is more confusing than ever before.
With so many different words used to describe your relationship status. Dating? Courting? Talking to each other? You oftentimes forget that the primary purpose of that season is to evaluate whether or not he is the one whom God has for you.
Even though you might have an idea of what you consider ‘husband material’, you might not know what signs to look for. And the last thing you want is to let your feelings get in the way of your true happiness.
While it easy to define that he’s not the one based on his actions, there are also signs that will show you that he is husband material.
In fact, you can use these 50 Questions to identify “The One” once you finished reading this blog post.
To help you evaluate if he is right for you, I’m sharing 10 Godly signs on how to know if he’s the one God has for you.
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The below Bible Verses have been quoted from the Life Application Study Bible (NIV).
1. His actions speak louder than his words
I said it before and I will say it again. If somebody shows you who they are, believe them.
The one thing I advise you to observe early in the dating phase is if he keeps his word? A guy who is in it for the long run wants to be trustworthy and make sure he’s reliable.
He won’t say one thing and do another. But rather show you with his actions that he is serious about you.
Many men will speak about all the things they want to do, but only a few will actually follow up and put in the work. And they will only do so for the woman they value.
When God sends you a man, that man will have integrity and stand by his word.
2. He knows what he wants
We live in a time where millions of people are at the tip of our thumbs and index fingers. And that has influenced a man’s desire to commit to one woman.
A lot of them are scared that they might find someone ‘better’ after they are already committed to you, but if you ask them what ‘better’ is, they can’t seem to put it in words.
If God put him in your life, that will not be the case for him. He will have identified you as the right one for himself, based on your personality, actions and most likely your looks (yes attraction does play a role).
A man who knows what he wants will show you by stating his #relationshipgoals early on without being afraid that you might get too hopeful. He will have a vision for the relationship he is looking for and who he wants in it.
3. He pursues you
We all know the saying and the movie “He’s not that into you”.
One of the many signs that you are dating someone that just isn’t that into you is that he will not put in an effort to be with you. Every interaction is initiated by you and oftentimes every date is planned by you too.
However, when God has sent you the right man, then he will actively pursue you. He will call, he will text and he will enjoy planning a date or two to make you happy.
Because one of the most obvious signs from God about relationships is that God will end the relationship if the guy is not the one and keep it flourishing if he is the one.
4. He’s your answered prayer
While I really don’t want to encourage any of you to treat God like a genie who will answer unrealistic expectations of a man. I want to encourage you that God knows you and knows the man he has for you.
If your sincere prayer for a godly man includes godly characteristics, then you will know God sent your mate because he possesses them.
Remember that God has beautifully and wonderfully created each one of us. He knows exactly who is right for you and will send them when the time is right. Therefore you won’t have to settle, compromise or drop your standards if they are godly.
5. The relationship glorifies God
How to know if God wants you to be with someone? Easy. If being with him doesn’t compromise your relationship with God, but rather strengthens it.
The one God has for you has a similar desire for God and encourages you to pursue Christ. He has the same morals and values, that include a godly lifestyle in which he puts God first. Because God won’t send you someone that corrupts your character or leads you astray.
You will know that your relationship glorifies God if your conversations and activities honor God with your body, mind, and soul.
6. He makes you love yourself
There is a very real assumption that if you feel comfortable around your partner without make-up than he’s the one. And that’s very true! But I believe you have to drop more than just your make-up. Namely the walls around your heart.
Because one way how to know if he’s the one God has for you is when you feel completely comfortable being vulnerable!
Sometimes sharing our deepest secrets and biggest flaws can be a challenge, because we are scared they might not like it and leave, or simply because we are ashamed of them.
However, the right one will make you feel good about yourself and love you just the way you are. So if you can confide in him and love seeing yourself through his eyes, then he might just be the one that God has for you.
7. You become part of each other’s life
While your days don’t revolve around each other, they definitely include each other. Before he makes plans with his friends for the week, he ensures that you get to spend time with each other.
And whenever he has exciting news to share or something to talk about you’re the first person that comes to his mind.
I know this might sound cheesy, but the best relationships are the ones where the couple considers each other as best friends.
It’s very easy to assume that physical attraction is all you need in a relationship and therefore underestimate a true bond. But if you only rely on the sexual connection and underestimate compatibility you quickly end up in a Situationship and find yourself settling for an undefined relationship.
But when you enjoy spending time together and enjoy talking for hours, you can go from a casual relationship to a committed relationship so much easier, because he already sees you as part of his life.
The easiest way to go from Situationship to Relationship is when you don’t just like each other romantically, but also as a person and can laugh about the same things.
8. You make each other better
Fact is every relationship, no matter if romantic or not, should add to your life and not subtract from it.
And the man you want to spend the rest of your life with should be a safe haven for your thoughts, your dreams, and your journey. The last thing you want is to be with someone that doesn’t support or believes in you.
Does he have your back when life is hard? Does He boost your confidence when you feel like giving up?
If he’s the one for you, he will support you face challenges and feel like giving up.
9. You trust him
Too often, we put up with someone that is not truthful, just to find out that our gut feeling was right from the beginning and we didn’t realize that God ended our relationship.
But trust has to be earned and only given after he showed you that he is trustworthy.
Observe his actions when he’s around you. Is he open and communicative or closed up and hard to read?
Does he have a problem with you being close when he’s on the phone or reading e-mails or does he ask you to pick up a call if he’s busy?
These habits might seem small, but if he’s overly secretive around you it’s an obvious sign that he’s hiding bigger things from you.
In a thriving relationship, your fears and doubts will vanish the more time you spend together. You will start to trust him, not just in the relationship but with your life, goals, and future. The man you commit to should be a good leader that you enjoy following.
10. He respects you
Too often we think respecting someone only refers to the way we speak to them. However, in relationships respect is part of the foundation you build on and can make or break it.
It’s the daily habits that you have to look out for in the beginning.
Does he respect your time and gives you his uninterrupted attention when you are together or is he preoccupied with work and other things?
If your first reflex is to protect him by giving a poor excuse as to why he answers his text messages while he is with you, then this is a good indication that something is wrong.
Yes, we are all busy nowadays, but spending quality time with each other is important and a choice you have to make. So ask yourself is he choosing to be present?
Another way to see if he respects you is in conversations. Is he repeatedly cutting you off when you are discussing something? Or does he value your opinion and appreciate your point of view?
No two people will see eye to eye on everything and that’s good because it means you are challenging each other as people.
But if you find yourself consistently being reprimanded, cut off or joked about, then that’s a sign that he doesn’t respect you and doesn’t see you as a grown woman that can hold her own.
Last but not least, is he loyal? Now this one is an important one!
Remember, that being in a relationship means the two of you are merging two completely different families, backgrounds, and experiences.
That means you will run into situations where one of you is wrongly perceived. And only if the two of you can stick up for each other, your relationship can survive.
Being loyal is a form of respect that shows you that he has your back even if it means he has to oppose people he cherishes.
It can be hard to determine if he is the one God has for you, but this list should help you. However, if you are looking for a more practical way to discern whether or not he is the one, then download these 50 Questions to identify ‘The One’ and answer them honestly.
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