When a man is in love with a woman
This blog post, no doubt, has the potential to be one of my greatest. Because who doesn’t want to know what happens when a man loves a woman?
Does he become nicer, more vulnerable, or jealous? Does he care more about her well-being than his own? Or does he get afraid of loving her too much and therefore leaves?
If you are like me, you probably enjoy reading the male perspectives on love and dating in the likes of cosmopolitan and Teen vogue.
That’s why I figured, rather than offering my ideas of what I think happens when a man is in love with a woman it would be so much better to get the opinion of real men.
For this article, I polled my Instagram audience who had a lot to share. Here is what you can expect when a man is in love with a woman.
What makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman?
Now you might have clicked on this blog post because you are wondering how to know if he loves you. Maybe you are dating someone and are looking for the 3 hidden signs a man is falling in love with you.
Am I right? I know how we do.
So I figured, before I get into the details of when a man loves a woman, let’s first look at what makes a man fall in love with a woman.
I wrote about this in detail in another blog post but in a nutshell.
What makes a man fall in love with a woman is how she makes him feel. If your presence in his life brings a sense of peace, familiarity, and joy then a man is able to let himself fall. In a world where it is hard for a man to be himself, a woman that makes it easy for him to be himself and holds space for him to be vulnerable is big.
Contrary to popular belief you don’t need to bring exotic looks or an enormous bank account. Simple enough, what makes a man adore a woman is the peace he feels when you’re around.
When a man is in love with a woman – 7 things that happen
As promised, I did ask the men on my Instagram story about what happens when a man is in love with a woman. Funny enough, a lot of their answers overlapped, meaning that the following 7 things happen for most guys.
1. He marks his territory
The first thing that happens when a man is in love with a woman is that he will become more territorial. Whether he notices it or not, he will subconsciously want to ensure that every man you meet (including his boys) knows that you are his woman.
Suddenly he will insist on joining you for outings or hold hands at events. Small actions he may even have avoided in the past, but now insists on in order to show that the two of you are an item.
2. He wants to take care of you
While I’ve always been outspoken about the fact that I don’t believe in hypergamy, I am very well aware of men’s desire to provide for their significant other. And I very much appreciated that in my past relationships.
When a man is in love with a woman, he will want to take care of her. Be it through by covering your bills when you’re out together or even supporting you financially to lessen your load. Men gain self-confidence from their ability to take care of women, especially the ones they love. Therefore, the more he does for you, the more he is in love with you.
3. He invests in your relationship
While we are already on the topic of investment (financially), let’s talk about the third thing that happens to a man when he falls in love. He starts investing time and effort, even if inconvenient, into the relationship.
When I started dating, I learned early on that many men don’t care about a woman’s needs and are more interested in catering to themselves. Well, that is true until he falls in love with you. Once he is determined to wow you, he will start showing up for you and yours. Friend’s birthday parties, family dinners, awkward company holiday parties. You name it, he will do it because he is invested in making the relationship work and prepared to sacrifice a few evenings and his ego to do so.
4. He opens up about himself
Y’all already know that emotional intimacy is my absolute favorite topic in the world. Urghh how I love having deep conversations with the men I date. But guess who doesn’t love it. All of them lol.
Yes yes yes when a man is in love with a woman, he will start to open up about himself. The peace that you bring to him makes him feel safe enough to be vulnerable and now he starts confiding in you. Hallelujah! So, if your man has been more open lately, well done. You got him hooked!
5. He fears losing you
Now, before I explain this point, I want to mention that the fear of abandonment is not a good motivator. You don’t want to be with someone who feels like he needs you, because that leads to a co-dependent relationship. Instead, you want to be with someone that excitingly wants to, which means that both of you come together to add to each other’s lives.
Now that this is out the way, of course, it doesn’t hurt if a man fears losing you a little bit. Just enough for him to remember that he needs to be on his A-Game. Thankfully, a man that loves his woman understands what he has to lose and will make sure to be his best self in the relationship-
6. He puts you first
Number 6 piggybacks on the last one a little bit. When a man loves a woman he will put her first. Not before himself and his needs, but before his friends and family most likely. He will prioritize meeting your needs before catering to anyone else.
7. He wants to be around you more
Last but not least a common response I received to my Instagram story was that when a man is in love with a woman he wants to be around her more often. He feels so good when he is with you, that he wants to be with you whenever he can.
He appreciates the fun and the adventure that you bring to his life and seeks your company daily. You will notice him being more available and more likely to suggest hanging out.
How do you know if a man truly loves a woman?
Now that we know the 7 things that happen when a man is in love with a woman, the answer to this question is much easier.
You will know that a man truly loves a woman when his main goal is to make her happy. Believe it or not, men are actually pretty cute creatures. They have a very big desire for pleasing the women in their life.
From his mom to his baby niece. A man will go the distance to make sure that the women he loves are taken care of. Which is what he will do for you as well once he truly loves you.
All his effort and his toiling will be to provide, protect and pursue you.