7 obvious signs he wants a relationship
When you start dating someone, there is one very important question you might ask yourself. Whether or not the man you are dating is looking for the same thing as you – A committed relationship.
And more often than not we scare away from that delicate topic because we don’t want to chase him off in the beginning. But that only leads to being caught up in the Twilight Zone of a Situationship or Friends with Benefits arrangement.
Which you most likely don’t want.
While you should not and will not be able to avoid talking about marriage and commitment forever, there are a few clues that you can look out for in the early dating stage that will help you identify if he wants to be your boyfriend.
Read on for the 7 obvious signs he wants a relationship.
Signs he is ready for a relationship
1. He pursues you
Before I get into this point, I want to mention that I strongly believe there is nothing wrong with a woman reciprocating interest in a man by calling or texting him first from time to time.
However, a woman should never be the one that initiates all the contact.
When a man is truly interested in being with you, he will show you. You won’t have to ask yourself: “Does he want to be with me?”
You won’t have to wonder where he is or what your status is because his actions align with his words.
Instead, you will feel that you have his attention because he checks in on you on a daily basis and is eager to keep the communication going.
2. He is consistent
Luckily, this point can be observed very early on in the dating phase and is one of the undeniable signs that he likes you.
Is he consistent in his communication and availability or does he sporadically send you a ‘hey what’s up’ text?
If he is serious about getting to know you, he will keep up the contact and make sure that he finds out as much about you as he can. He will use every opportunity to talk to you via text message, phone or in-person. Because he desires to be close to you.
You will receive a text message from him during his lunch break or a phone call when he is on his way home from work.
There won’t be long periods of time where he is MIA and you are wondering if something is wrong, instead you will feel like he is truly invested.
3. He progresses the relationship
We all know what it’s like to be in a situation where it feels like time is standing still and after 3 or even 6 months of dating you are still not officially a couple.
That is usually the case with a man that does not want to commit and avoids the topic altogether. In that case, you can try to go from Situationship to Relationship using the steps I provide in my book, but more often than not this guy “a Type B guy” has his mind made up and refuses to commit.
That is not the case when you meet a man that knows exactly what he wants and doesn’t fear to go after it.
When a man wants to be in a relationship with you, he will be intentional about you and will want to increase the amount of time he spends with you.
Instead of just going on evening dates once a week he will want to see you more frequently and for longer periods of time.
He will desire to spend more time with you and move from dating to courting quickly.
4. He is willing to slow down for you
I believe that boundaries are the best way to test a man’s intentions for you and find out if he wants to commit.
If the guy that you are seeing respects the boundaries you put in place and still pursues you, then it means that he is truly interested in you and wants to see if the relationship has potential.
A guy that likes you won’t mind meeting your requirements if that means he gets to be with you.
5. He opens up to you
This point might just be the most important one. It’s actually a psychological sign someone likes you.
Men know that being in a relationship means that the woman they are with will be all up in their business. The good, the bad and the ugly.
A man who is not ready to date you exclusively will avoid sharing vulnerable information with you out of fear of being hurt or rejected. He will give you superficial answers whenever you try to connect on a deeper emotional level.
But a man that wants a committed relationship will be willing to become intimate with you by sharing more of himself with you.
He will want to invite you into his world and share the things he loves, he fears and he desires with you because he wants you to be a part of that world.
6. He makes plans for the two of you
The next sign he wants something serious is that he will make plans. He will book himself into your calendar throughout the week to make sure that he gets to see you.
And he will do so ahead of time because he knows that if he doesn’t, chances are that you might go on a date with someone else.
He might even include you in his existing plans with others if that means he gets to spend more time with you.
So, a man that truly wants to be with you will make you his number 1 option and show you his intentionality through his plans.
7. The relationship is peaceful
Last but not least, the relationship just flows peacefully. When you meet a man that is serious about you, you will find that the relationship is just easy.
Because if a man wants you he will make it happen no matter what.
There are no awkward gaps, you are not constantly wondering whether you are on the same page or not, but you can feel and see that he is truly interested in you.
His words and his actions will align, and you will feel in your gut that he is a good choice. Peace is the number one way how you know something is good for you.
So, if you feel peace in your heart about the man you are seeing, then he might just be the one for you.
Identifying if he wants a committed relationship might not be easy but it is so important if you want to date with purpose.
The only thing that differentiates Christian dating from dating for leisure is that you have a goal in mind and are not looking to play around.
So, use these 7 obvious signs he wants a relationship to vet the men you meet and avoid getting too invested into men that are not ready to commit and only want a casual relationship.
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