How to get over someone you never dated: 5 tips to end a situationship
This topic is an interesting topic because if we are honest no girl likes to admit that she is in a situationship, but heck we have all been there. Things happen.
And while getting caught up in a situationship is oftentimes involuntarily, staying in it is not.
And yes I understand that you might still hope that there is a chance this will turn into a real relationship. And sometimes the best thing you can do is seek an honest conversation to find out if he is ready for a relationship.
However, I can assure you that unless you end the situationship there will be no change.
Instead, it will just get harder and harder because you are getting more emotionally invested with a man that does not want to make it official.
That’s why today I’m sharing with you how to get over someone you never dated by using these 5 tips to end a situationship.
1. Do a reality check
In order for you to truly go through with the ‘breakup’, even if you did not officially date, you need to get yourself into the right headspace. You can do so by being honest with yourself and admitting to yourself what your girlfriends have been thinking all along.
And that is that this guy does not want to be with you.
So honestly ask yourself these questions:
- Is he treating me like I deserve to be treated?
- Is this the type of relationship I TRULY want (or am I compromising)?
- Am I really in love or am I just infatuated (and projecting my desires onto him)?
These are most likely the questions you have been avoiding but are so crucial. So, make it a point to say them out loud in front of a mirror or journal them. This will help you to admit what you have been sensing in your spirit all along.
Because the earlier you understand and accept that, the earlier you can move on.
2. Prepare yourself mentally
This step should follow immediately after the first one. Once you asked yourself the questions mentioned above and answered them honestly. You now have to come up with statements that affirm your decision to end the situationship with him.
Statements that will remind you WHY it is important to stop pursuing this man and WHY he is not doing you any good.
I personally like to be hard on myself and not sugarcoat anything. So, I will tell myself something like:
He does not want to be with me and there is NOTHING I can do to change that.
That sentence takes the blame away from me and helps me realize that all my tricks to get him to commit won’t work, because it’s not me, it’s him.
So, write that statement down and repeat it throughout the day whenever you think of him or your mind tries to tell you lies about how he may at one point eventually maybe perhaps possibly potentially happen to change his mind.
3. Cut him off completely
I know this step is the one thing you would like to avoid, but there is no getting around it.
Do not seek closure!
Why? Because if you are completely honest with yourself it’s just another attempt to get him to ‘understand’ you and eventually change his mind.
But like I said before. He does not want to be with you and there is NOTHING you can do to change that.
So, stop all communication. Delete and block his number. Delete and block him on social media or take time off the gram yourself. And lastly, avoid any events or activities where you might bump into him until you are truly over him to void a relapse.
And if that feels harsh, then remind yourself that just because you delete and block him it doesn’t mean you hate him.
It just means that you are putting yourself first and avoiding any situations that could compromise your mindset and actions.
How to Get Over Someone You Never Dated: 5 tips to end a Situationship
4. Reflect on the situation
If you know my blog, then you know that I’m all about self-reflection and personal growth. And one of the best ways to get over someone you never dated is to reflect on the friendship.
So, after you cut all your ties, it is important that you do the work to become your best self as a single woman.
Use the newfound gaps in your daily schedule to reflect on why in the world you allowed yourself to get caught up in a situationship. Because we all know that unless he is an Oscar-nominated actor there are red flags that reveal that he is not the one.
So ask yourself:
Did you purposefully ignore the red flags, because your desire to be in a relationship was stronger than your desire to stick to your standards?
Or did he tell you from the beginning that he doesn’t want a relationship and you lied to yourself that you could do it without catching feelings?
Yea, you see where I’m going with it…
Whatever, it is what led to it, identify the role your subconscious thoughts played and seriously deal with these limiting beliefs.
5. Focus on yourself
Of course, there is no way I would end this post without pointing out the importance of self-love and self-care. Because that’s what unhealthy dating and relationship patterns boil down to.
How much do you love and respect yourself if you put yourself in that situation?
In order to end a situationship and truly over it you have to learn to put yourself first. Your own well-being, your own happiness, and your own life.
Learn what makes you happy and how you like to feel on a daily basis so that you can discern easier when something or someone doesn’t feel right. That way you will avoid getting into a situationship again because you won’t allow a man to disturb your peace and happiness.
Ending a situationship can be hard, but it’s the only way to get rid of the feeling of anxiety, emptiness, and worthlessness you are feeling because a guy is keeping you in the twilight zone.
So, if you know you are in a situationship, use these tips on how to get over someone you never dated and end the situationship ASAP.