Does god have a husband for me or am I going to be single forever?
It’s that time of the year again. The winter holidays are over, it is still cold outside and all the stores are decorated in red and white. Valentine’s Day aka Single Awareness Day is upon us!
If you are anything like me, then Valentine’s Day is an unfriendly reminder of the fact that you have never been in a “real” enough relationship to be taken out on February 14th, ever.
And you may be asking yourself if that is going to change this year. Will 2021 be the year you go on your first Valentine’s Day date, despite social distancing, nationwide lockdowns, and reduced entertainment?
Or if you don’t care much for Valentine’s Day then you may be asking yourself a much more important question.
Does God have someone for me to marry AT ALL?
Isn’t that really what you are wondering?
I mean how not? Early 30’s, successful, pretty, and no debt, but here we are single with no prospects in sight.
At one point, even the most faithful prayer warrior starts wondering “God, where is my husband?”.
And I know what it feels like because I was in that situation for a long time. That’s why I decided that today is a great day to share 3 signs that God has someone for you even if you can’t see it at the moment.
Does God have someone for me
1. A desire of your heart
I once met a woman at church that was in her late 40’s, highly successful, extremely kind and single. She frequently spoke of her nieces and nephews she often cared for and about how important family was to her.
One day during our small group meeting, my fellow young sisters in Christ and I dared to ask her the forbidden question. Have you ever desired to be married and have a family?
To our surprise her answer was “no”.
She went on to explain that she realized very early on that marriage and having kids was nothing she desired for herself. God had blessed her with a full life, that she enjoyed far more as a single woman.
And that she was not missing anything.
She went on to explain to us that when God gives you a desire of your heart it is because he can bring it to pass for you. And she also reassured us that desiring marriage and being upfront about it is a good and honorable thing.
Her simple explanation gave the rest of the group a boost of inspiration and peace, because we knew she had a point.
God gave you your desire for marriage. If marriage was not available to you or it was not in his plan to give you someone then he could have blessed you with a desire to remain unmarried.
So, if you get discouraged in your wait, remember to “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
2. Divine timing
Whenever we ask ourselves “Does God have someone for me?”, what we are really asking is “God, where IS my man?”.
Because, let’s be honest. Do you really doubt that in a pool of 3.5 billion men in the world, God cannot find one man that is compatible with you?
Of course he can!
However, what we are really doubting is how fast he can bring him? Right?
If that’s the case for you I want you to think of something. How often in life did you desire for something to happen that did not happen? And then later you find out that it was a blessing in disguise?
I remember vividly how crushed I was when I didn’t get my gap year job at Disneyland Paris back in 2009. However, thanks to that I was sent to work at Disney World Orlando instead.
And let me tell you that was way better and changed the course of my life.
Ever since then I knew that whenever something doesn’t work out, it’s not because God says no, but because he says not yet.
I’m saying all that to say that God may still have someone for you even if that person hasn’t appeared yet.
And believe me when I tell you that it is much nicer to meet the right person at the right time.
3. God has someone better for you
Last but not least, I truly believe that some of the relationships that failed in your life failed because God has someone better for you.
I can honestly say that I entered many relationships in the past despite knowing that they were not in my best interest.
I either willingly accepted less because I thought it was the best I could do. Or because I was afraid it was my “last” shot at love. Looking back at it it now makes me laugh and cry at the same time.
I mean I was merely in my 20’s.. Child you haven’t even lived yet lol.
Whenever I think of those failed relationships now I thank every guy that dumped me when I was desperately trying to hold on to him.
What a waste of time, peace, and tears.
Think of Ciara! The poor woman must have cried herself to sleep for weeks and months when she was pregnant with Future’s child. Because he publicly embarrassed her with his wandering eye.
But what may have seemed like the greatest breakup of her life, became an open door for a godly man such as Russel Wilson to come through.
In the same way, I now understand that my failed relationships were God gently navigating me. From a hopeless relationship to a healthy, loving, and godly one.
I know that it is easy to get caught up on “Woe is me train” where it seems like everting is going wrong. But rather than questioning the creator of the universe if he has a husband for you.
Ask yourself, in what ways you are creating opportunities for God to work in your life?
Are you open to the men he introduces you to? Is your heart free of resentment and hurt towards men and love? Would you be able to welcome a committed relationship if it fell into your lap tomorrow?
All these things play a role and may be a reason why God was not able to deliver him yet. Even if He has someone for you.