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Why They Always Come Back (When You Move On)

They always come back

A story as old as a handmaid’s tale. Exes that suddenly pop out of the woodwork after you finally move on. 

And if you have been reading my blog for a while then you know I’ve experienced that myself.

In the three real relationships and multiple situationships I have been in, this phenomenon always held true.

The moment I completely gave up on a hopeless relationship and finally broke off the soul tie, the old boo showed back up. 

It’s almost like they can smell that you are happy and are looking to mess up your love life again.

Which is why in this post, I share why men always come back when you move on.

How True Is the Saying They Always Come Back?

From experience, I can say it is very true.

In many cases, exes do come back. Whether he realized that he made a mistake in breaking up with you, or misses you and wants to try again.

And sometimes they come back because they are feeling lonely or because they want to see if they can still get your attention.

However, there are also other men that break up and move on without ever looking back.

So, while the saying “they always come back” may be true in some cases, mine included, it’s not a guarantee.

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Reasons why men come back

If your ex-boyfriend recently came back into your life, you might be wondering why. Here are some reasons why men come back:

1. Regret

The first reason why a man comes back is because he regrets breaking up with you.

Most men actually regret breaking up within the first 24 hours. They realize they made a mistake by ending the relationship and want to make things right.

That’s when they come back to apologize for their actions and oten try to rekindle the romance.

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2. Nostalgia

Another common reason why a man comes back after you move on, is because he remebered the good times.

Men get nostalgic too. They think about the past relationship and then reach out to you in hopes to relive the good times.

Oftentimes it’s because they may miss the emotional connection they had with you and want to see if there’s still a spark.

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3. Loneliness

Loneliness is unfortuntely also a very common reason why men may come back.

They may have realized that being single isn’t as fulfilling as they thought it would be. A relationship, on the other hand, offers comfort and familiarity.

So, when they start to feel lonely, they seek you out again.

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4. Curiosity

Another reason why your ex may come back is out of curiosity. Especially if you moved on with your life.

Many men are curious about what you’re up to and how your life has changed since the relationship ended.

They may want to catch up, just to see if there’s still a connection between you.

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5. Selfishness

Lastly, a man may come back to you for selfish reasons.

Whether it’s for physical needs or because he doesn’t want to lose you while he figures out what he relly wants.

Many men will keep coming back into your life, while completely disregarding the effects that behavior may have on you.

Using your life like a revolving door is selfish and therefore you must be careful.

Overall, there are many reasons why men come back, and it’s important to understand why your ex-boyfriend has reached out to you.

Remember to take things slow and make sure that you’re not being taken advantage of.

What It Means If Someone Always Comes Back to You

What I’m about to say may hurt your feelings, but it needs to be said. When a man always comes back it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is the right person for you.

It may actually may mean that he is not. Because a man that always comes back is also a man that always leaves.

So if you feel confused and are wondering what his intentions are. Here are a few things to consider:

  • He might not be over you and keeps coming back to you, because he still have feelings for you.
  • He may be afraid of being alone. That does not mean he is interested in a relationship, but wants someone to spend time with.
  • He may not be sure what he wants and keeps going back and forth between wanting a relationship and being single.

If your ex keeps coming back, do not ignore the red flags but instead make sure to set boundaries with him.

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