4 tips to overcome your quarter-life crisis

If you are in your mid 20s or early 30s you may already know what I’m talking about. The feeling of being lost and not knowing what to do with your life. Even though you have a job and a decent income, you feel trapped in a life that doesn’t feel right. You constantly wonder if this is “it” and reassess your career path and relationships.

While comparing your achievements to those of your most successful friends you feel like you aren’t where you want to be. When you aim to get to the bottom of the problem you are overwhelmed with the choices and stressed out by the possibility of failing. Welcome to your quarter-life crisis.

4 Tips to overcome your quarter-life crisis

This period of intense soul-searching is widely spread among young adults and affects many of us. Those of us that suffer from it the most are usually described as” ambitious, goal-oriented and with strong ideals” says Dr. Robinson from the University of Greenwich.

But why does it feel like a burden?

Whilst you experience a lot of dissatisfaction and confusion during this stage of life it is also an opportunity to soar. A chance to evaluate achievements, change your current situation and improve your well-being. Here are 4 tips to overcome your quarter-life crisis.

4 Tips to overcome your Quarter-Life Crisis

1. Shift your mind

It is good to pursue your dream and work towards your goals. However, it is up to you to decide how much power this dream has over you.

Does it occupy your every thought? Did you build your entire life around it? If yes, then it’s time to shift your mind and find a healthy balance between achieving and enjoying.

Take the time to stop worrying about the future and reflect on the past.

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2. Turn your fears into motivation

One of the benefits of fear is that it releases a hormone nicknamed fight-or-flight adrenaline. This type of adrenaline signals our brains that there is a challenge ahead of us. Suddenly we can think on our feet and push ourselves a little harder.

Your quarter-life crisis does the same. It’s a wake-up call in disguise that alerts your mind that it’s time to react to a situation that poses a risk to your dreams.

It’s up to you to use it as a motivation to change something rather than to let your fears paralyze you with depression and hopelessness. By taking a leap of faith and aligning your life with your dreams your fears become your motivation.

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3. Become the You, you always wanted to be

Almost as a side effect, this cruel and unapologetic stage of life has one long-lasting impact. It increases awareness of who you are and what you want or to be correct what you don’t want.

Just like the great recession, your quarter-life-crisis causes you to be more creative, make tough decisions and put yourself first.

Suddenly, a year abroad, an online business or another degree don’t seem risky, but right. It is your chance to be authentically you.

4. Live, don’t just go through the motions

I hate to break it to you, but life is not a walk in the park.

More often than not, you will be stressed, drained and exhausted from the challenges life keeps throwing at you. But you know what? The opposite of having a great life is to settle for a good life.

A life where you seek convenience and ease above taking chances. If you get through this you will have changed as a person, matured as a human being and birthed something greater. Your quarter-life crisis won’t make or break you, but it will encourage you to choose a life that is worth the struggle.

I hope that these tips to overcome your quarter-life crisis will change your perspective and make the rest of your life, the best of your life!

Love & Light

Justine

37 Comments on 4 tips to overcome your quarter-life crisis

  1. Ahh, so much yes in the post. As a 25 yo newlywed I’m smack dab in the middle of a crisis. I appreciate your perspective and will reflect on my motivations and God’s calling on my life as I figure this thing out.

    • Wow it’s so interesting to hear your perspective as a Newlywed. You’re so right, once we assess our motivations we get a clear understanding.

  2. Really great article! The last point really hit one with me. I have always found myself just going through the motions but realized at the end of the day I never really went anywhere. Love this thanks so much

  3. It was a good read. I kinda relate on that 7 months ago. I just followed my gut and now I’m happy with what I’m doing, currently teaching English and travel blogging. ????

  4. The first tip about shifting your mind is crazy important! I’ve seen so many people, particularly my clients (I’m a therapist) keep themselves stuck in a horrible position just because they’d spent a lot of time trying to make it work. I have one who always dreamed of being a teacher but then found he’d rather start a business. Yet, he’s still applying to teaching jobs because he just can’t shift his mindset!! Very frustrating. So this is a super important tip. Thanks for sharing!

    • Wow that’S such a good example. Oftentimes we assume that our dreams are not important, realistic or too small to work, so we go for the THING that looks good. But at the end, it doesn’t make us happy. Thanks for the input, so good!

  5. I have had this feeling when I turned 30. But I have realized that I need to stop comparing myself to others and to embrace what I have already accomplished. I am much more content now. Thanks for sharing those great tips.

    • Absolutely! Comparison is the worst!!!! I’m so happy I got over that as well. I think the older we get, the more we understand that nobody’s life is perfect, just unique.

  6. I am totally going through a quarter life crisis right now. Trying to figure out what direction to go and trying not to stress out about it at the same time lol. Thank for the tips!!

    • Aww, I feel for you! I go through one every year I think. But the great thing is, the more you weed out the things you don’t want, the closer you get to the things you do want.

    • I absolutely agree! There is no measurement to what makes life successful. So we might as well create one that we deem successful!

  7. I love this! Especially the part that we that suffer from this are actually ” ambitious, goal-oriented and with strong ideals” . So often I feel like perhaps there’s something wrong with me since everybody around me is pretty content with what they/I have… but… I just can’t settle! But yeah…. sometimes I envy them a bit, cause as you say, it does feel like a burden from time to time. But then again, wouldn’t trade it with them for anything! So let’s carry on… 😉

    • Me too! Sometimes I envy my friends for enjoying the simple life, while I’m constantly looking for more. Thank you so much for your input!

  8. I so relate to this! I definitely went through a quarter life crisis, switched careers and made it through to the other side. Now I couldn’t be happier and am getting my career where I want it to go.

  9. I love the bottom note! so many go through the motions in their twenties and forget that twenties and thirties are the years of ambition and paving the way to your big dreams. I did struggle with this in my early 20’s. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to join the army or the missions fields or just go to college. I ended up not doing any of that. I moved to Washington and lived with friends and eventually got married. Now here I am 27 looking back and wouldn’t change it for the world.

  10. Hi, Justine! This is such an important topic! I’m past my quarter life crisis, but I can still remember so much about it. In fact, my quarter life crisis inspired me to be a therapist. Now I get to help others going through all sorts of crises, including the “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life” crises. Thank you for sharing your encouragement and insights on how to cope with this time period, as we all go through a period of uncertainty in early adulthood where direction from others is helpful. I’d also like to thank you for being a voice for this topic because very few actually TALK about it. I feel like that’s one reason why so many in this time period struggle–there’s not much help offered for it, not much guidance. So, thank you!!!

    • Thank you, Laura! I’m so glad you mentioned it. As a Therapist, you know what people go through and I strongly believe that the quarter-life crisis is a real issue. I see many of my friends go through it consciously or subconsciously and it breaks my heart that they don’t tackle it. I hope that there will be more initiatives and opportunities in place one day to help young adults navigate through that phase.

  11. This season of life is full of opportunities and the unknown, but it can also make someone feel lost/uneasy. A verse that I clung to during that time was “For in a man’s heart he plans his ways, but the Lord directs his steps.” -Proverbs I rested in trusting that He would guide me!

  12. I lost myself in my 20s and found myself back through hard work, dedication, and change of attitude.
    Now in my 40s, I look back. I realize I wouldn’t have been stronger if I haven’t lost myself and struggled back.
    Sometimes, we all learn the hard way to achieve success.

    Nice blog you have. This is worth sharing.

    All the best,

    Michelle / DSM Tool

  13. I recently went through my quarter-life crisis. I felt like others my age were accomplishing more and/or enjoying life more than I was. I made some changes and trusted in God, and I feel as though my life has improved drastically since then. Lovely post!

    • Hey Joanna, I totally know that feeling. But sometimes a change and stepping out in faith can change life to the better. I’m glad it helped!

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