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Is He Stringing Me Along? How to Tell If He’s Really Into You

Is He Stringing Me Along? 

Are you feeling unsure about the status of your relationship? Do you find yourself questioning whether the guy you are dating is genuinely interested in you or just stringing you along? 

If so, you’re not alone.

Plenty of women, myself included, have found themselves in this situation before, wondering whether a guy is truly committed or just playing mind games.

And if you are looking for a serious relationship, then it’s important to recognize the signs that your boyfriend may be stringing you along.

So if you’ve been asking yourself, “Is he stringing me along?”, then this post will help you answer your question.

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How Do You Tell When a Guy is Stringing You Along?

It can be difficult to tell when a guy is stringing you along, especially if you’re emotionally invested in the relationship. But there are some obvious signs that will show you if a guy is only selling you false hope or interested to commit:

1. He’s inconsistent

The most obvious sign that a guy is stringing you along is that he’ll be hot and cold. In a new relationship that means he’ll sometimes shower you with attention and affection, and other times ignore you completely.

This inconsistency can leave you feeling confused and unsure of where you stand with him. A man that has good intentions for the relationship, won’t leave room for doubt. 

2. He’s non-committal

Another clear sign that a guy is stringing you along is that he’ll avoid making plans for the future or committing to anything long-term.

He might say things like “Let’s just see where this goes” or “I’m not ready for anything serious right now” whenever you ask him where things are going.

While it’s smart to date for a while before getting into a committed relationship, it’s a big red flag if he takes a long time to commit.

3. He’s secretive

The third warning sign of a guy that is not planning to commit to you, is that he doesn’t share much about his life or his feelings with you.

Whenever you ask him questions he is evasive or changes the subject.

A man only avoids deep conversations with the woman he’s dating when he is adamant about keeping things casual.

4. He’s not interested in your life 

In the same way, he avoids sharing a part of his life with you, he is also not particularly interested in your life. Whenever you spend time together he doesn’t ask about your day or your interests.

Conversations with him often feel shallow and superficial, not offering a lot of opportunities to connect emotionally. 

5. He’s keeping his options open 

The main reason why a guy strings a woman along is that he wants to be able to date someone else if the opportunity arises.

This is why you will know that he is undecided and only stringing you along if he continues dating other people long after your first couple of dates.

That is a sign that he’s not fully invested in the relationship and is still looking for something better.

6. He’s not putting in real effort

Is the guy you are dating putting in an effort to make plans or spend time with you?

Does he call and text consistently and plan dates ahead of time or expect you to be available after an impromptu “What you doing?” text message?

If he is not putting in much effort to court you properly chances are high that he only sees you as his fallback girl and not the woman he wants to be with. 

7. He hides you on social media

If you know me, then you know that I have a very particular stance when it comes to couples on social media.

However, if the two of you are in an exclusive relationship and he struggles to tag you in his Instagram stories, it’s a big sign that he doesn’t see you in his future. 

If you’re experiencing any of these signs, it might be time to have a conversation with him about where you stand in the relationship.

Remember to trust your gut feeling and prioritize your own mental health and needs.

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Is He Stringing Me Along or Is He Interested?

It can be difficult to tell whether a guy is genuinely interested in you or if he’s just stringing you along. Here are a few signs that he is genuinely interested in you. 

  • He makes plans with you in advance and follows through on them.
  • He contacts you regularly, not just when it’s convenient for him.
  • He introduces you to his friends and family and is interested in getting to know yours.
  • He makes an effort to deepen your connection and learn more about you.
  • He’s consistent in his behavior and doesn’t give you mixed signals.

If you’re noticing these signs, it’s likely that he’s genuinely interested in you.

However, it’s still important to have open and honest communication about your expectations and what you’re looking for in a relationship.

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Is He Moving Slowly or Stringing Me Along?

Once you are in a committed relationship with a man, the stakes are higher. And it can be hard to tell whether your boyfriend is taking things slow while moving towards marriage or just stringing you along.

Here are a few signs to help you figure out which one it is:

He’s Not Making Time for You

If a guy legitimately wants to progress the relationship, he’ll make time for you. He’ll want to see you, talk to you, and spend time with you.

If he’s always too busy or he cancels plans at the last minute, he might be happy with where things are.

He’s Not Introducing You to His Friends or Family

If a guy is serious about you and wants to take things to the next level, he’ll want you to meet his friends and family and vice versa.

If he’s not introducing you to the important people in his life, he might not feel like you’ll be in it for long enough.

He’s Not Making Any Plans for the Future

When a guy is taking things slow, he might not be ready to make any big plans for the future, like moving in together or family planning, just yet.

But if your partner is not talking about the future or making any plans with you at all, he might not see a future with you. That’s when you have to take a step back and figure out if the relationship is worth it. 

He’s Not Taking Action

The most important thing when dating with intention is that both of you know what you want and take action to make that happen.

If a guy is looking to progress the relationship, he’ll take concrete steps toward it. He’ll do things to prepare himself and his life for marriage.

If he’s not taking any action, he might already know that he will never marry you.

Remember, it’s important to trust your instincts. If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore the signs if you think a guy is stringing you along.

Why Do I Feel Like He’s Stringing Me Along?

If you’re feeling like he’s stringing you along, it’s likely because you’re not getting the level of commitment or attention you want in the relationship.

Here are a few reasons why you might feel this way:

  • Mixed signals: He says one thing, but his actions say another. For example, he might tell you he wants to be exclusive, but then he’s still active on dating apps or flirts with other people in front of you. This can be confusing and make you feel like he’s not really committed to the relationship.
  • Lack of communication: If he’s not communicating with you regularly or consistently, it can make you feel like he’s not really invested in the relationship. Maybe he takes hours or even days to respond to your messages, or he cancels plans at the last minute without a good reason. This can make you feel like you’re not a priority in his life.
  • Hot and cold behavior: If he’s hot and cold with you, it can make you feel like he’s stringing you along. Maybe one day he’s super reassuring and proactive, but the next day he’s distant and unresponsive. This can be confusing and make you feel like you’re always walking on eggshells.

Overall, feeling like he’s stringing you along can be really frustrating and confusing. It’s important to communicate your feelings with him and make sure you’re on the same page about what you want from the relationship. 

If he’s not willing to commit or make changes, it might be time to move on and find someone who will give you the attention and commitment you deserve.

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