How to glow up after a breakup
It’s been more than half a year since my breakup in the summer of 2021 and girl do I feel good.
Happy, healthy, and most importantly excited.
It comes as no surprise to me whenever people tell me I’m glowing. Because I do!
Thanks to the breakup I’ve gotten into great shape, super focused at work, and crystal clear about my goals.
So, yes my post-breakup glow-up looks good. Thank you! However, I’m not here to talk about myself, but to help you.
I only know too well that the end of a relationship can feel like death!
You don’t just lose your partner, but also your best friend. And mending a broken heart can take a lot of time because you have to work through a range of emotions.
This is why I always suggest not rushing your healing process but making sure that you process the emotional pain properly.
Instead of trying to glow up and heal at the same time, focus on healing from the breakup first. Don’t pressure yourself to be and look happy on social media, just so you can act like you moved on.
Take your time to go through the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Each stage will help you let go of your ex-boyfriend in a healthy way.
And once you’re done you will notice that you feel better about the breakup and yourself, which means you can focus on your new life without your former partner.
That’s why today I’m sharing how to glow up after a breakup.
What is a heartbreak glow-up?
A heartbreak glow-up is when you improve yourself mentally and physically after a breakup. A glow-up is basically you becoming the best version of yourself, triggered by traumatic growth.
And yes, it sucks that you first needed a breakup to experience good things afterward. However, I always say that it takes knowing what you don’t want to get clear on what you do want.
So sometimes it takes bad relationships to appreciate and enjoy single life.
How to glow up after a breakup
As painful as a breakup is, it provides the perfect starting point for personal growth. The following tips on how to glow up after a breakup, are examples of what I did when my romantic relationship ended.
1) Get healthy
As I mentioned above, I tend to lose weight after breakups. Unfortunately, I experience so much physical pain that I oftentimes can’t eat for weeks.
And as much as I appreciate the flat tummy, it’s not healthy. Because you miss out on much-needed vitamins and energy.
To get the lost vitamins back and regain your energy, something like IV therapy may be quite helpful.
Myer’s IV increases hydration levels and promotes faster absorption of vitamins and minerals into your bloodstream. That helps you feel more energized and boost your immune system.
That way I kickstart a much-needed detox, which helps me introduce a healthier diet the moment I get my appetite back.
So, my first tip is, is to get healthy.
Change your diet, start working out, and watch your body transform. Getting healthy will make you feel good about yourself and when you feel good you start to look good. And that will lead to the infamous post-breakup glow.
2) Practice mindfulness
If you are struggling to move on after a breakup because you are still in love with your ex, then this point is for you.
Mindfulness is the most powerful tool to feel happy again after a relationship ends.
It challenges you to let go of the past and stop worrying about the future. By meditating, praying, or journaling you learn to focus on the present moment and find joy in that.
It allows you to shift your mindset from lack to abundance and from fear to faith.
You will learn to get still and observe your thoughts and emotions without judging them, thus improving your overall mental health.
Trust me, it’s a game-changer!
3) Indulge in self-care
Self-care is my jam! It’s something I do all the time to show myself some love.
Whether it’s taking a bubble bath, going for a walk, or watching Netflix. Making time to do yourself something good is important. Because it communicates to you that you are worth it.
And the more you love yourself, the more you feel appreciated and beautiful. Feelings that translate to the way you show up and interact with other people.
So, what are some of the ways you can practice self-care and self-love? Here are some of my faves:
- Watch Youtube/ Netflix
- Buy myself flowers
- Take a bath
- Go swimming
- Go for a walk
- Get my nails done
- Get my hair done
- Take a nap
- Try new face masks
- Do my skincare
4) Invest in yourself
The next step on your glow-up journey can be applied to both your personal and professional life.
Invest in yourself!
Whether you have been meaning to learn a new skill to advance your career or try out a new hobby, doing something new will push you out of your comfort zone which will increase your self-confidence and make you feel happy.
A great way to get started is to look at the areas of your life that offer room for improvement.
You don’t have to invest a lot of money or time in the beginning. Start small by watching a Youtube video once or twice a week or signing up for a free course.
I promise you, that sense of accomplishment you gain from a side business or solo adventure is priceless.
5) Spend time with people that make you happy
No matter if you had a bad breakup or not, it’s very common to feel defeated and lonely afterward. So, one of my pro tips is to surround yourself with people that make you happy.
Of course, close friends and family members are always a good choice, especially the ones that you know will help you stay positive about the future. Because ain’t nobody got time for negative energy.
Make it a habit to meet up with positive, loving, and happy people and watch their joy for life swap over to you.
6) Practice gratitude/ positivity
The only thing that is better than hanging out with people that are happy, is becoming one of them.
While it’s easy to assume that your post-breakup glow up is complete once you achieve your revenge body, that could not be further from the truth.
The real flex is when you start loving life so much again that you are excited for the future, even without your ex.
And the best way to get to that sweet spot is by practicing gratitude and positivity.
Yes, I said practice. Becoming a happy person that glows does not happen overnight. It’s a skill that requires a serious mindset shift and personal development.
So get into the habit of gratitude journaling every knowing or evening.
Simply think of different things you are grateful for and write them down. Big or small things like your daily breaths or the bed you sit on while journaling.
This simple habit will increase your mood a hundredfold and catapult you into a joy magnet.
So try it!
7) Take a break from social media
Sometimes I feel like social media is the thief of joy. Because you can have a really good day and then see something you don’t like and it ruins your day.
So what I suggest to do while you are focusing on feeling happy after a breakup is to take a break from social media. Or at the very least, unfollow social media accounts that make you feel anxious.
That way you will have more time to devote to yourself. See it as a way to make space for extra self-care and use your newfound free time for better things than scrolling on Instagram.
8) Make yourself feel beautiful
I am a big believer that when you look good you feel good. And because the best thing you can do to glow up after a breakup is feel good, why not make sure you look good?
That does not mean that you need to buy a ton of new clothes, completely alter your physical appearance, or start a costly skincare routine.
You would be surprised what a huge difference it makes to simply spend 10 minutes on your appearance every morning. Comb your hair, put on some blush, and choose clothes that you love.
That will make you feel beautiful and give you that extra pep in your step for the day.
9) Treat yourself
Finally, another good example of how to glow up after a breakup is to get into the habit of treating yourself.
For that, you can use any of the activities I mentioned above, like going on a walk or getting your nails done. However, you can also splurge and take yourself for ice cream, go shopping, or even book a weekend getaway.
Whatever it is that makes you feel happy.
Remember that it’s not about a revenge glow-up, but it’s about being happy single after a breakup.
What is the best thing to do after breaking up?
The best thing you can do right after a breakup is to take some time for yourself and go completely no-contact.
That could mean going on a solo trip somewhere or simply spending a few days listening to sad songs and having a pity party.
There is never a perfect time for a breakup and when relationships end it hurts.
So you want to take a little bit of time to reflect on what happened in the relationship that led to the breakup and how you can grow from it.
Almost like a detox, you want to give your heart and mind space to reset so that you can start your life as a single woman from a place of being whole.