More than friends but not dating
It’s now been about 2 years since I started writing about situationships. A no man’s land that many women find themselves in.
Maybe you are dating a guy and it feels like you are together but not together. Even though the two of you have been hanging out for a hot minute and like each other you are not in a relationship but more than friends.
I mean what do you call someone you’re dating but not in a relationship with? The short answer is – a friend with benefits.
Yes ma’am. Even if that term just felt like a dagger to your chest, it’s accurate. Considering the things you do are not PG, you definitely surpassed the friend zone. That’s when the question becomes are you okay with being more than friends but not dating?
Is it okay to be in a situationship?
Of course, it is okay to be in a situationship relationship of friends with benefits relationship with someone. Do whatever floats your boat! But, only do it if that’s the kind of relationship you want. Meaning you enjoy being in a together but not together relationship.
If you, however, find that the uncertainty and no-strings-attached nature of this type of relationship constantly makes you feel anxious, then it’s not for you.
Are we in a relationship or just dating?
The one major sign that you are in a situationship is that you are confused! You may feel like “we act like a couple but we are not official” and that confuses you.
Whenever he doesn’t text you back in the evenings you are annoyed and hurt, but you don’t want to admit it because you are not his girlfriend. However, when you are in private, he often treats you like it.
The reality is until the two of you sit down and decide that you are in a relationship, you are just dating.
Nowadays, there are no behaviors that are exclusive to certain relationship statuses. Girlfriends will act like wives and fucks buddies will care like girlfriends. So, it would be silly to assume you are in a relationship solely based on certain signs.
How long before dating becomes a relationship?
I still believe that after 3 months of dating you should be able to decide whether you want to be in a relationship or not. And depending on how often you meet up and how deeply you get to know each other you might even be able to speed it up.