I know, for some of us single girls the holiday season leading up to Valentine’s Day is a really hard time. It feels like there are lovers all over the place and you’re the only one strolling through the park by yourself. Wondering, where is my boyfriend? You try to be strong and dismiss the feelings, but deep down you really want a boyfriend for Valentine’s Day.
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The last thing I want to do is to dismiss your situation and act as if it isn’t important. Because for you it is. Instead, I want us to look at things we can do to overcome the feeling of frustration and loneliness.
Entrust your desires to God
God knows each one your desires and cares for them. He understands your feelings because he created them and doesn’t want you to be alone as told in Genesis 2:18.
The Lord God said, “It’s not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him,”
You can be sure that God knows that you are not feeling good about being alone. At the same time, you need to remember that God will bring a suitable partner for you when the time is right. So, entrust Him with your desires and surrender your cares. You will be surprised how much more enjoyable this season can be if God’s peace fills your heart.
Guard your heart
The reason why the end of January to February is such a hard season for singles is because everything around us focuses on showcasing love. Suddenly there are way more romantic comedies on TV, far too many love songs on the radio and everybody has Valentine’s Day themed Facebook Photos (so corny). Is that a coincidence? No! It’s called marketing. And the only thing you can do against it is guarding your heart like advised in Proverbs 4:23:
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
So, if you just listened to Adele on your way home from work, don’t be surprised if you are feeling a little sad. She has a beautiful voice, but she mainly things about heartbreak and romance. And while I do not suggest locking yourself in, I do recommend not watching romantic movies or listening to love songs for a while. Because they will influence the way you feel and magnify situations that are already bothering you. So, instead of listening to love songs, listen to worship music and don’t put yourself in a situation that will make you feel miserable.
Renew your mind
Like every holiday season, Valentine’s Day was invented
to make money to remind people of the importance of Love in their lives. There is no reason why you as a single girl can’t do the same even if you don’t have a boyfriend for Valentine’s Day. You share Love with different people every day. Your family, your friends, your colleagues and hopefully God. So why not use the time leading up to Valentine’s Day to renew your mind daily and get closer to God. In Romans 12: 2 Paul reminds us:
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Let’s get your eyes off being in Love and on understanding Love. Only if you know how God intended this powerful emotion to be given and received you will be able to nurture and maintain a healthy relationship in the future. Which means plenty of beautiful holidays in the future with a husband or a boyfriend for Valentine’s Day.
The Valentine’s Day Prayer Challenge
To help you enjoy this holiday even as a single girl I created the Valentine’s Day Prayer Challenge: 14 days of prayer for single girls. This Prayer Challenge will help you to understand Love as designed by God. Motivate you in your single season and encourage you to pray for your future husband. It includes a bible verse or passage for 14 days to show you ways you can honor God and show love to others. The Valentine’s Day Prayer Challenge will guide you away from the worldly idea of Love and teach you God’s limitless Love. Join the Valentine’s Day Prayer Challenge today.
No matter how hard life feels without a boyfriend for Valentine’s Day, remember that God only wants the best for you and that there is joy in following Him and peace in trusting Him.
Love & Light